If we are to be realistic, we must admit that there are things in life that we all dread. Somewhere in our thoughts is fear or concern of something bad that could potentially happen. And dreads are ok, in moderation. In fact in some ways, dreads can be healthy and even keep us out of the line of fire and help us avoid crisis. However, dreads can also keep us from living, and fulfilling the calling we were designed by God to fulfill. The imbalance comes when dreads soak up so much of our energy that we have no juice left to dream with. If we must dread, dread small, and only dread what is necessary. If you're going to dream, dream big, dream outside your comfort zone, do a little more than you think you can. Starve your dreads of energy they could soak up, in order to feed your dreams. Even if every dream doesn't become reality, don't view it as failure. Failure is not trying something that doesn't work. Failure is living in fear and therefore never trying anything at all. One of the things I most dread in life is dreaming too small, easily reaching my goals, and discovering that I could have accomplished much more had my sights been set higher.
You'll read in my book that I've been accused many times of dreaming too big and not being realistic. My question is always "realistic by who's standards?" One of the things I've told my nurses, therapists, and even my family when I would exceed an expectation in my recovery is "that's great, but I'm not done yet. I can push harder. I can do more." I have a dream of how far I can recover, despite a sometimes grim prognosis, and I'm still striving to live that dream. When I had my big neurological setback 2 years into my recovery, and nearly had to start over in a wheelchair, I initially dreaded the thought of going back thru all the same therapy again, especially when my doctors were warning that I may not be able to rebound a second time. But God gave me a deep assurance that my dreams weren't out of line. I didn't have to re-dream. The dream of what I could accomplish still existed. I did however have to re-fuel that dream, so I starved my dreads, refused to calculate the bad, and dug my heals in, with the same dream in the cross-airs. Have I lost site of the target a few times? Sure I have. I'm weak sometimes. I put it in park momentarily, refuel, and go again, refusing to reduce the size of my dreams and accept what is supposed to be "realistic". Friend, only you can choose the intensity of your dreads, and only you get to decide the size of your dreams. If you're going to dream, dream big. But don’t forget; in order to feed your dreams, you must choose to starve your dreads.